Taming the Rat Webinar

You’re performing. And it’s exhausting.

Not just at work. Everywhere. In meetings. At home. Even when you’re alone.

You carry pressure well. You decide quickly. You hold it together. But the vigilance never quite switches off. Rest doesn’t restore you. The best people around you have stopped pushing back. And something stays tight — even when things are going well.

This isn’t burnout. It’s defence. And nothing you’ve tried has touched it.

What this session does

In 60 minutes, you’ll recognise something you’ve probably never had language for:

Which voice is driving your decisions — before it drives them for you.

Why you can’t switch off — and what it’s costing you and the people closest to you.

Why speed isn’t clarity — and why being the fastest decision-maker in the room might mean you’re the most defended.

Why the people around you have gone quiet — and what it would take for honesty to replace managed silence.

What leading from steadiness feels like — instead of leading from defence.

This isn’t theory. It’s recognition. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

A simple framework you’ll remember

The session introduces four voices. You carry all of them. Every conversation you have is shaped by which one is running.

The Stag — you under pressure. Carrying responsibility, making decisions, holding the weight.

The Rat — the voice of defence. Quick, protective, relentless. The need to be right, stay in control, and manage perception.

The Wren — the quality of inquiry. The question that creates space instead of closing it.

The River — the quality of presence. Non-judgemental. Unhurried. Not trying to fix.

Once you can hear the Rat, you can’t unhear it. In meetings. In conversations with your team. In the quiet moments at home when your body is there but your mind is still at work.

Nothing is fixed. Everything is noticed.

Know someone who needs to hear this? Book this session for your team.

Taming the Rat is a free live 60-minute session

Delivered by Andrew Sillitoe — a former international athlete, executive coach, and author who spent seventeen years working with leaders before realising most of them weren’t tired from the work. They were tired from defending.

This is not a motivational talk. It’s not resilience training. It’s not therapy.

It’s 60 minutes of quiet precision — delivered without jargon, without asking you to share what you’re not ready to share, and without a single framework to implement.

Just recognition. And a language that stays with you.

Who this is for

You lead a team, a company, or an organisation — and you’ve been carrying more than you show.

You’re good at what you do. That’s not the problem. The problem is you can’t stop performing long enough to find out what leadership feels like without the armour.

You’re not looking for another framework. You’re looking for something that actually names the thing you’ve been feeling.

Format

Duration: 60 minutes

Delivery: Live virtual session

Audience: Up to 30 people per session

Facilitation: Andrew Sillitoe

Cost: Free

Register Now

One session. 60 minutes. No commitment beyond that.

If you recognise something — and you will — we can talk about what comes next.

Want to bring this to your leadership team? Book a private session for your organisation.

About Andrew

Andrew Sillitoe is a former international athlete and Team GB head coach who spent seventeen years coaching leaders and athletes before realising most of them weren’t tired from the work. They were tired from defending.

After losing his father at sixteen and his brother in 2022, Andrew moved to Prague and began walking by the Vltava River. He started writing short dialogues between four voices — the Stag, the Rat, the Wren, and the River. Those dialogues became the foundation of his work with founders and executives carrying sustained responsibility.

He is the author of The River: Eight Dialogues for Leaders Who Carry Too Much and three previous books on leadership and living well.